Credit: Google images . Justin Timberlake on his album MIRRORS.
Not a la Timberlake, mind you , but bring sexy back responsibly, wholesomely, within the confines of the marriage covenant. Any other configuration is fraught with risk, shame , guilt, tragedy, and a plethora of discontent. The current sexual sphere has yet to improve on God’s wise and timeless principles for managing sex. Call me old fashioned but sex is one of those activities that should be managed like fire: do it right or get burned.
“God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them. God blessed them and said to them, ‘be fruitful and increase in number……….'” Gen. 1:27-28
“The man said , ‘ this is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called woman for she was taken out of man.’ For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.” Gen. 2:23-24
“Marraige should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and sexually immoral. ” Hebrews 13:4
“The body is not meant for sexual immorality, but for the Lord, and the Lord for the body. By his power God raised the Lord for the dead and he will raise us also. Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ himself? Shall I then take the members of Christ and unite them with a prostitute? Never! Do you not know that he who unites himself with a prostitute is one with her in body? For it is said, the two will become one flesh. But he who unites himself with the Lord is one in Spirit. Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins man commits are outside his body but he who sins sexually sins against his own body. Do you not know that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you , whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought with a price . Therefore honor God with your bodies. “. 1 Cor. 6:13-20
No. God and sex and are not incompatible. Both are made of three letters, with sex possessing God endorsement. The human race has persisted because of it. Unless you are a test tube baby, you have to thank sex for landing you here, naked and screaming . Sex is like God. Either we love to hate it or we worship it. If you happen to worship it, you my single friend may either be doing one of two things: you are living in sin, or you are a high risk for becoming a cold hearted and callous sexual prick, which is sinful too. Don’t misunderstand . This is no Puritan manifesto I’m laying down here. I believe in sex. Sex is good. In fact I have to thank it for making it possible for me to be a father. But there are rules and the rules are in fact consequential for your life and your happiness.
Sex isn’t the prerogative of validation and attention seeking lustful playboys and sluts. Sex is for marriage only. Have you read in the Bible about the single gentleman/lady and their sex life? There’s no such a thing . It’s an oxymoron. If you are single right now and dating you have no right to be demanding sex. I know, I know , you have been fed all this lines from Sigmund Freud and his kin suggesting that nature does what nature is going to do and that you can’t help it. So you might as well eat the cake and worry about the repercussions later. Let me object. There’s plenty room for dissent not only against Freud , but also towards the sensational and salacious quips of the pornographers , sly politicians , and liberal preachers of vice. What they say about sex is more often than not subject to bull-s__t. You are not going to die for abstaining from sex. Second of all not having sex before marriage beats having it. The psychological and physical benefits of practicing abstinence while single far outweigh the so called rewards you can gather from engaging your lower belt regions. Ask around . The most fulfilling sex lives and marriages are of those who arrived to the honeymoon virgin. More sex before marriage , means less happiness . The more sexual partners , the more likely you ll end up unhappily ever after.
Do not surrender the last vestiges of propiety. Sex is the fingerprint you can’t erase. Ask a gal or a guy who tied the knot while virgin. They don’t have any regrets. You might think you can reclaim your virginity after eating the cake before the wedding. I’m sorry you can’t . You can not possibly unring the bell. Words spoken can’t be taken back. The prize is gone once it has been given away. A dollar spent is gone forever. Either apologize and stop fooling around if you want to regain some respect. Notice I say some, becaue quite frankly you can’t bring virgin back . Saving yourself for the One. That’s sexy . I don’t know about you , but I have a vivid imagination. Can you imagine all the sexual partners your spouse had ? If you know he or she imagines yours, does it make her/him uneasy about all your past sex buddies ? Sex is not like eating peanuts. Slow down your sexual roll. Do you have a romantic interest , partner, or fiancé who seduces you at every whim and corner and that’s making you uncomfortable? Edge them out. Bid your player mate adieu. If you call yourself a Christ One, there’s zero room for comprise. Dodge a bullet and say no even if you have to flash a wry grin. Don’t join the common rooster of lusties and those seemingly irresistible timeless pieces of men /women candy with their guns blazing. Keep your dignity, preserve the mystery , and likely save yourself from an STD nor two, plus a shotgun wedding.
The Bible’s definition of safe sex is called MARRAIGE. Condoms break and not all forms of disease can be averted by the various forms of protective genital gear. You might as well be playing Russian Rulette should you engage in sexual activity with a carrier of disease. Until you are willing and able to place a weeding ring on your mate you have no business on insisting on a condom outside the parameters of marriage. Do not ask anybody for sex whom you are not willing to hinge as a spouse. Lust demands birth pills and condoms, true love waits and seeks commitment. The so called sexual revolution and liberation of the 1960’s and 1970’s had more affinity to a rebellion than a revolution per se. People didn’t suddenly discover that sex was free to have without the complications of love . No. People actually woke up to the notion that conservative and traditional perceptions of morality and sexualutiy needed nuanced, in keeping with “modern”times . Suddenly the high time had dawn to revise tradition and dogma in exchange for sexual self-determination. Throw God out of the sexsphere. We are better handling sex ourselves. The prohibited tree of sexual indulgence became more appealing than the tree of life of restraint and discipline. The consequences ? Eating the forbidden fruit brought about unintended repercussions that on second consideration, didn’t make nakedness all that glorious. I’m thinking along the lines of Genesis 3 in case you missed it!
Maintain and acknowledge your sex drive as a gift from God but keep it low key while single. Flaunting your sexuality is perfectly permissible under the blankets of the marriage bed (1 Corinthians 7:3-5), but not in the marketplace. You are not a peacock. Booty call , one night stands , and scoring short lived sexual flings have all the ability to booster the ego, but that’s a bubble bursting in no time. Sexual trysts and adventures aren’t sustainable in the way that a committed loving marriage is. Sex off the cuff is like a drug and you can’t get enough of it because your use and abuse of it has turned it into a game. It has assumed toy dimensions. There’s a proper place for modesty and decency at all stages of life but particularly at that time of our sexual self awakening, when the urges of hormones are kicking in and the meaning of temptation is more pronounced. Accuse me of being a puritanical killjoy but your skirts should probably be longer than your vagina. Any blatant display of sensuality deigned to invite unrestained lust has no place in a Christ follower. To do otherwise is to court trouble. Simple is better and less is more. A Nobel peace prize has yet to be conferred to vice. Pursue pure sex therefore and honor Christ doing so. The alternative will be your gradual but certain descent and decay into the vast moral sewer the God -alienated world is.