If God hand picked a mate for you you might not be pleased with the outcome.
“Go and take for you and adulterous wife and children of unfaithfulness because the land is guilty of adultery in the vilest form.”
No. That’s not a typo. It’s not a misprint. God did tell one guy one time to marry a hooker. Weird , whacky, and wild , uh! This story constitutes one of the most salacious dramas in the whole Bible, involving the respectable Man of God and his vice bride. Think of it. Hosea is single and well qualified, possessing a distinguished and impeccable prophetic resume. But the air is about to be sucked out of his guts : he is commanded to hinge with a virtual prostitute (Hosea 3:3). How’s that as a an option to enhance his career and life ? Can you picture the expression in his peers’ and parents ‘ face?
Wanna reconsider the single life again?
I’m adamant about my stance that God refuses to micromanage anybody’s life. But poor Hosea disproves my point , right , because God told him exactly who to marry. Well in life there’s this thing called exemptions. Not all is black or white out there. Fifty shades of grey is more than a fictional novel . God does draw outside the lines sometimes and unless we are dealing with the Ten Commandments and the Golden Rule, many things are simply not set in stone . Even the six hundreds plus commandments of the Torah don’t cover every single aspect of living . We are supposed to fill in the blanks. We must employ our inner moral compass based on that which carries a proven track record for maximizing and enhancing life and happiness:
“Whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable, if anything is excellent or praise worthy, think about such things” (Philippians 4:8).
I take it that God expects us to avail ourselves of informed and sanctified common sense when making critical life choices such as whom to marry. The rules are not loose and open for negotiation , however. The parameters are firm and not in flux:
“Don’t be unequally joked with unbelievers ” ( 2 Corinthians 6:14).
“Do not intermarry with them. Do not give your daughters to their sons or take their daughters for your sons”
( Deuteronomy 7:3).
Simple enough. If that guy or gal doesn’t love Christ and his Word, ditch them. Fill in the rest. God isn’t going to finish your homework. If you are waiting on God to show you by happenstance, vision, dream, or prophetic oracle about the identity of the One, you might as well plan for perpetual bachelorhood . Take initiative . Quit being indecisive. Go out and meet people where people gather. No not the bar. Not the whore house. Stay out of the Devil’s Den. Butterflies don’t hang out in swamps and bat infested dark caves. They will suck out your blood. Try the flower fields. Not all churches are necessarily virtue clubs, but if you find singles there , chances are they aren’t there to be cured of a hangover or needing exorcism. So I suggest you try the church house and strike out the Penthouse or Big House.
Desist in having God as your personal life coach. If God were to give you everything you asked, at your whims and preferences, who would be God? The difference between God and us is that God doesn’t think he is us. Give it up . Get a life. Make some tough choices. Take a risk for love. If romance isn’t for you get a puppy , a hobby , a job and go on a quest to conquer the world . The world is in need of fighters , not wimps and consumers.
If God has a larger , more strategic purpose for your life, then he might well ask you to marry a shady character, an ex con, a single parent or whatever . But that isn’t going to happen unless your ears are tuned in and adjusted to hear from God. You and God have got to be aligned on the same wavelength so that you can discover his will. And although the Hosea saga may be a one of a kind event , never -to-be-repeated occurrence, you never will understand what the Lord in his wisdom has laid out for you unless you care to follow orders and be faithful .
It’s not as complicated as it seems.
Why doesn’t God do anything about my predicament ? You gotta be kidding me . Why don’t you? You have two healthy legs, start walking ! Ten fingers can accomplish a lot , have you tried them lately? The dictionary is the only place where success comes before work. Try work . Rumor has it it leads to results. God won’t assume responsibility for all all your choices. Are you prepared if he pulled a Hosea out his sleeve? I’m using faulty logic here ( and who uses logic anymore?). It doesn’t follow that because you surrender will power that God is going to assume control . No. You are in control . You are simply misguided. You are at the wheel. But not without a reliable guide . The plan is already published . Don’t be doing the lame thing of conjuring up your own plan and expecting God to endorse it. You get aligned with what God is doing. The path isn’t farther than those 1400 pages of holy Writ. That’s a good place to start.